What men really want
Want to know what your man
is thinking? The male brain's needs, fears and secret desires will surprise
you.
. Talk More Like a Man
We don't mean to clear your throat or speak in deeper tones. Just get to the
point quicker. As much as men love the sound of your voice and really love to
help you out, their attention spans are short.
Their minds will wander if they don't see a
conclusion on your story's horizon. So, as you are sharing the details of
today's run-in with Brenda from Business Affairs, skip the transcript of the
exchange and create a highlight reel. He'll get the gist if you keep it short
and just say what's on your mind—like most men talk when talking with other
guys.
But, remember, he's not hearing the story for
story's sake. He's looking for a problem to fix for you. So, if there isn't one
or you're not really looking for solutions, broadcast that to him in black and
white: "I'm not looking for you to fix anything; I feel better just having
you understand how I'm feeling." Say it your way. Suddenly, you will have
given him the reward he was looking for—the satisfaction of having provided
something of value to you, the woman he cares about.
2. Grab Hold of His Hand
Many women think that men don't like cuddling, hand-holding, and other non-sexual forms of closeness; they're wrong. Men enjoy it as much as you do, but they are conditioned to hide these deep desires to avoid the appearance of weakness—"non-maleness"— in front of other men and even from you. When you display your love in public by grabbing his hand, planting a brief but passionate kiss or touching his thigh with your hand, you demonstrate confidence in your sexuality, which men find irresistible.
Many women think that men don't like cuddling, hand-holding, and other non-sexual forms of closeness; they're wrong. Men enjoy it as much as you do, but they are conditioned to hide these deep desires to avoid the appearance of weakness—"non-maleness"— in front of other men and even from you. When you display your love in public by grabbing his hand, planting a brief but passionate kiss or touching his thigh with your hand, you demonstrate confidence in your sexuality, which men find irresistible.
3. Give Him Props
Remember how hard you worked on those show-and-tell projects in kindergarten, and how good you felt when the class clapped and, at home, Dad said "attagirl"? Men are, in many ways, kindergarteners who want nothing more than your appreciation and respect for their hard work.
Remember how hard you worked on those show-and-tell projects in kindergarten, and how good you felt when the class clapped and, at home, Dad said "attagirl"? Men are, in many ways, kindergarteners who want nothing more than your appreciation and respect for their hard work.
Because that recognition rarely comes from
their bosses, it's even more critical that you give it to them on occasion at
home when they do something particularly thoughtful or skillful. Men grow up
with cultural expectations to be strong and brave, to suppress their emotions,
fears, and hurts, so it may be very difficult to detect this need beneath their
stoic armor. But, rest assured, it's there; men can be insecure.
One
of the most effective ways to show your love for him is to fulfill his need to
feel valued and needed as provider and protector. In a poll ofMen's Health readers,
66 percent said they want women to compliment them on an intangible yet
specific quality, something they uniquely possess. Be sincere: "I love how
you always can make me feel better" is much more effective than
"You're wonderful" because it reinforces his efforts to care for you.
4. Laugh With and at Him
After her body, her sense of humor is the most attractive thing about women for men who responded to The Big Book of Sex survey. But that doesn't mean you have to be quick with jokes and witty one-liners.
After her body, her sense of humor is the most attractive thing about women for men who responded to The Big Book of Sex survey. But that doesn't mean you have to be quick with jokes and witty one-liners.
Simply
being able to laugh with him, at him, and at yourself is a sign of intellectual
compatibility, says Dr. Billy Goldberg, co-author of Why Do Men Fall Asleep After
Sex? "Men want a
woman who is as comfortable relating her own ridiculous anecdote as she is
listening to ours."
5. Ask for What You Want
Men aren't the best mind readers. But they understand coaching, having spent years playing organized sports. So most of them respond well to feedback and direction. In fact, they would very much enjoy hearing what you'd like them to do to you in bed. If you're not really comfortable asking for specifics, take the pressure off by talking in generalities when you're not in bed.
Men aren't the best mind readers. But they understand coaching, having spent years playing organized sports. So most of them respond well to feedback and direction. In fact, they would very much enjoy hearing what you'd like them to do to you in bed. If you're not really comfortable asking for specifics, take the pressure off by talking in generalities when you're not in bed.
Once
you're between the sheets, "turn requests into erotic expressions, not
instructions," says Joy Davidson, a sex therapist in New York and author
of Fearless Sex. "Saying 'Oh, do that. . .' isn't an
order, it's sexy." (Certain words can make good sex great.-Contact us at
Source: Fox on sex
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